You are love. You can lose something you have; you cannot lose something that you are.
The problem is that most of us have been encultured to think that love is a commodity that we get and give. If you are worthy, you will be loved by someone who is worthy. If you become unworthy, you will lose the love of others.
It’s also a way for your ego to pick and choose who receives the light of your love and who is left in darkness.
But loving and being loved are two very different things. If someone loves you but you are somehow shut off, depressed, or unable to receive it, then no matter how much they love you, you will not feel it. Yet if you love someone, regardless of whether or not they accept it, you will feel filled with love.
The point in that difference is to highlight the fact that love is a nondual phenomenon. It doesn’t require two people or a subject and object. Just one heart.
Whenever it seems like love is disappearing from your life, be that in the form of a breakup or a series of unfortunate events, don’t struggle to impose your preferences onto the situation. Don’t strive to satisfy your insecurity.
Instead, use that as an opportunity to uncover the real abode of love, the timeless radiance within your beating heart.
It’s not easy and it’s not painless but really there is no other choice. Love shines from the placeless, timeless, sourceless source within. So long as you require someone or something external to give you permission to access and commune with the source of love, you will be in unnecessary bondage. By learning to bear your heart, to allow it to break open, you can uncover the very abode of consciousness.
You do not love or bring love into the world. Love is what manifests you in utter newness, moment after moment.
Reexamine everything you have assumed about love and where to find it. Question all of your previous assumptions. And practice tonglen meditation.
A book I also strongly recommend is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron.
Namaste :) Much love.