Buddha is our inherent nature—our buddha nature—and what that means is that if you’re going to grow up fully, the way that it happens is that you begin to connect with the intelligence that you already have. It’s not like some intelligence that’s going to be transplanted into you. If you’re going to be fully mature, you will no longer be imprisoned in the childhood feeling that you always need to protect yourself or shield yourself because things are too harsh. If you’re going to be a grown-up—which I would define as being completely at home in your world no matter how difficult the situation—it’s because you will allow something that’s already in you to be nurtured. You allow it to grow, you allow it to come out, instead of all the time shielding it and protecting it and keeping it buried. Someone once told me, “When you feel afraid, that’s ‘fearful buddha.’” That could be applied to whatever you feel. Maybe anger is your thing. You just go out of control and you see red, and the next thing you know you’re yelling or throwing something or hitting someone. At that time, begin to accept the fact that that’s “enraged buddha.” If you feel jealous, that’s “jealous buddha.” If you have indigestion, that’s “buddha with heartburn.” If you’re happy, “happy buddha”; if bored, “bored buddha.” In other words, anything that you can experience or think is worthy of compassion; anything you could think or feel is worthy of appreciation.
Pema Chodron (via zentaku)
floridsmoke asked: How can I not cling to people in my life? Everyone I meet carries great importance to me and letting them go is hard for me to understand
Here is a good question to ask of your clinging: What is its purpose?
When life is uncertain, it is not your clinging that keeps them here; it is your love. And when it comes to life’s vicissitudes, no matter how much you love and cling, those people will leave your life. Be it through change or death.
So while clinging pretends to be of use, it is not. It’s like worrying.
Furthermore, if you are clinging, then there is less room for everything else. Less room for love, less room for lightheartedness, less room for freedom. All of this is overshadowed by the need to control, which is all that clinging boils down to: control.
Therefore not to cling means to surrender your control, which you never really had. Love fully not because you are afraid to lose these people but because they are so important to you. Appreciate them but don’t try to control them. Give them freedom.
"If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.”
Don’t try to possess. Not only will you fail but you will suffer.
Yet when you let go you will see for yourself that they do not go anywhere. They are still here.
So why cling in the first place? Another good question to ask yourself.
Namaste :) Much love
Many of our escapes are involuntary: addiction and dissociating from painful feelings are two examples. Anyone who has worked with a strong addiction—compulsive eating, compulsive sex, abuse of substances, explosive anger, or any other behavior that’s out of control—knows that when the urge comes on it’s irresistible. The seduction is too strong. So we train again and again in less highly charged situations in which the urge is present but not so overwhelming. By training with everyday irritations, we develop the knack of refraining when the going gets rough. It takes patience and an understanding of how we’re hurting ourselves not to continue taking the same old escape route of speaking or acting out.
so sorry for the sneak pic, but doesn’t he look wonderful?